Be Do Have: The Original Rule of Transformation That Changes Everything
- Rachel Krider
- 2 days ago
- 8 min read
You don’t need another miracle morning, colour-coded planner, or shiny life hack to finally change your life.
If you strip personal development back to its foundation, there is one principle that has quietly governed every real transformation long before it became an industry.
It’s simple.
It’s ancient.
And it’s shockingly practical.
Be Do Have.
Who you are being determines what you do. What you do determines what you have.
Once you understand this sequence and start working with it intentionally, almost everything else becomes noise.
This blog was inspired by a recent YouTube Live conversation with my husband and business partner, Shane Krider, and myself.
It was a relaxed, flowing conversation where we explored the Be Do Have concept, using a few prompts and slides along the way to keep the discussion focused and accessible. Our hope was simply to bring a little more clarity to an idea that’s been around for centuries, but is often misunderstood or overcomplicated.
If you’d like to watch the full conversation, you’ll find the link to the YouTube Live below. This article builds on that discussion and takes the ideas a little deeper.
Table of Contents
Why Be Do Have Is the Real Foundation (Not the Hacks)
We live in a culture obsessed with shortcuts.
Many people don’t realise how often the same thoughts repeat in the background, shaping identity without permission. I explore this more deeply in living in your head rent free.
Productivity tricks. Dopamine hits. Morning routines that promise to fix your life in 30 days.
Those things can help, but only temporarily.
If you want results that last, you have to work from the inside out. That’s what Be Do Have really is. It’s a reminder that identity sits at the centre of change.
When your identity shifts, your behaviour follows naturally.
When behaviour changes consistently, outcomes change automatically.
This isn’t new.
Aristotle framed it as character preceding outcomes.
The Stoics taught mastery of the inner state before outer success.
Taoism called it aligning with the way, so action becomes effortless.
Buddhism showed how identity and intention shape results.
Even the line “as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he” points to the same truth.
Different languages. Same principle.
Be Do Have.
The Neuroscience and Psychology Behind Be Do Have
Here’s where this gets practical.
Your brain follows identity more faithfully than it follows goals.
This is why mindset always comes before strategy. I’ve unpacked this more fully in Mindset Is Everything.
You filter the world through something called the reticular activating system. It decides what you notice, what you ignore, and what feels possible based on who you believe yourself to be.
If your identity is “I’m always behind with money,” your brain will keep finding evidence to prove that right.
If your identity shifts to “I am someone who handles money confidently,” your brain starts scanning for small wins, opportunities, and behaviours that support that identity.
That’s the quiet power of Be Do Have.
Change the inner operating system, and your neurochemistry starts backing different actions. Things that once felt forced begin to feel natural. Discipline turns into alignment.
This is the Be Do Have mindset in action.
A Four-Step Roadmap to Upgrade Who You’re Being
Identity doesn’t change through vague intention. It changes through repetition, evidence, and context.
Here’s a grounded, repeatable way to work the Be Do Have loop intentionally.
1. Interrupt Identity Evidence
Pay attention to the story you’re rehearsing.
“I’m bad with money.”
“I always sabotage relationships.”
“I never finish what I start.”
That internal monologue is identity rehearsal.
The moment you catch it, interrupt it. Don’t analyse it. Don’t argue with it. Simply label it as the old identity and stop the loop.
What you stop rehearsing eventually loses power.
2. Install New Meaning and Rehearse It Emotionally
Identity shifts when meaning shifts.
Decide what meaning you want to carry instead. Then rehearse it emotionally.
See it. Feel it. Speak it.
If you want to be a confident earner, rehearse the feeling of handling a surprise expense with ease. Pair affirmations with visualization and real-world examples that prove it’s possible.
Emotion opens the door. Logic keeps your mind on board.
3. Act at the Identity Edge and Collect Small Wins
This is where most people trip up. They aim too big, fail, and reinforce the old identity.
Instead, ask: What’s one small action someone like me would take today?
Fill the tank.
Send the email.
Read ten pages.
Train for 20 minutes.
Each small win becomes identity evidence. And identity evidence compounds faster than motivation ever will.
4. Control Your Environment
Identity is context dependent.
Who you spend time with and where you spend your time quietly shapes who you believe you are.
If you want to be healthy, spend time where healthy behaviour is normal.
If you want to grow financially, change the conversations you’re around.
If you want to lead, put yourself in rooms where leadership is embodied.
Environment does a lot of the heavy lifting when willpower runs out.
A Practical Example That Brings Be Do Have to Life
Let’s use money, because this is where the Be Do Have sequence becomes very clear.
Many people carry an identity that sounds like this:“I’m always behind.”“I’m just not good with money.”“It never seems to work out for me financially.”
That story becomes the identity.
From that identity, behaviour follows. Avoiding numbers. Delaying decisions. Spending reactively. Hoping things improve rather than managing them.
And the outcome?
The very situation the person says they don’t want continues to repeat.
This is where Be Do Have changes the pattern.
Instead of trying to have more money first, the shift starts with who you are being.
A simple reframe might be:
“I am someone who manages money calmly and intentionally.”
Notice this isn’t an income claim. It’s an identity choice.
From that identity, behaviour changes naturally.Checking balances without stress.Tracking one small win a day.Making a considered choice instead of an emotional one.
Even something as small as saving five dollars or paying an invoice on time becomes evidence.
Over time, that evidence accumulates.Identity strengthens.Behaviour stabilises.Results follow.
Be Do Have in action looks like this:
Be someone who handles money with clarity.
Do the small, consistent actions that reflect that.
Have a financial reality that feels more spacious and controlled.
Nothing dramatic. Nothing forced. Just a different starting point.
That’s how Be Do Have turns insight into lived change.
Common Pitfalls (And How to Avoid Them)
Understanding Be Do Have doesn’t guarantee you’ll apply it well. Most people don’t fail because they lack insight. They fail because they unknowingly reverse the sequence or dilute it.
Here are the most common ways that happens.
1. Chasing Outcomes Instead of Identity
This is the most common trap.
When you focus only on what you want to have, money, confidence, clarity, freedom, you end up forcing behaviours that don’t match who you believe you are yet.
That creates friction.
Instead of asking “How do I get this result?” ask “Who would I need to be for this result to make sense?”
Identity first. Action second. Results follow naturally.
2. Using Affirmations Without Evidence
Affirmations can interrupt old thinking, but on their own they don’t rewire identity.
Your brain looks for proof.
If the words you repeat are not supported by behaviour, the mind quietly rejects them. That’s why pairing affirmations with small, aligned actions matters.
Evidence is what makes identity stick.
3. Comparing Yourself Into the Wrong Identity
Comparison is subtle, and it’s corrosive.
When you compare your beginning to someone else’s middle, you don’t get motivation, you get a distorted identity.
Use other people as proof that something is possible, not as evidence that you’re behind.
Be Do Have is personal. Your pace is part of the process.
4. Ignoring the Role of Environment
Identity is not formed in isolation.
Your environment constantly reinforces who you believe you are, through conversations, expectations, and norms.
If your surroundings contradict who you’re becoming, change the surroundings.
Sometimes the fastest way to change behaviour is to change the room you’re in.
A Simple Reframe to Remember
If progress feels heavy or forced, check the order.
Are you trying to do without first choosing who you’re being?
Correct the sequence, and the resistance usually disappears.
A Simple Way to Start Using Be Do Have Immediately
You don’t need a new routine. You need a new reference point.
At any moment, ask yourself one question:
“Who would I need to be right now to create the result I want?”
Then act from that place.
Not perfectly. Not dramatically. Just honestly.
A calm leader doesn’t rush the email.
A confident earner doesn’t avoid the number.
A grounded partner doesn’t react, they respond.
That single question collapses the gap between insight and action.
Ask it often enough, and Be Do Have stops being a concept and starts becoming your default way of operating.
This is also where ideas like attraction are often misunderstood. I share a grounded perspective on this in the law of attraction is real.
Why Be Do Have Works Long-Term
Be Do Have isn’t a slogan. It’s a practical model grounded in psychology, neuroscience, and ancient wisdom.
Identity programs attention.
Attention shapes behaviour.
Behaviour compounds into results.
When you intentionally become the type of person who acts differently, your brain rewires to support that behaviour. The path from being to having becomes direct, not exhausting.
If this framework is something you want to integrate more consciously, I’ve explored it further through the lens of identity in be do have mindset.
Final Thought
If you’re tired of chasing the next trick, pause.
Decide who you want to be.
Rehearse it emotionally.
Prove it through small aligned actions.
Design your environment to support it.
Be Do Have is the original personal development principle because it puts you back in the driver’s seat. Not chasing outcomes, but creating them from the inside out.
FAQ
How quickly does identity change with the Be Do Have approach?
You can shift internal narrative within days. Lasting identity change happens over weeks or months through repetition and evidence.
Can I use Be Do Have for relationships, or only money and business?
Absolutely for relationships. Who you are being shapes how you communicate, choose partners, and set boundaries.
What if I don’t know who I want to be?
Start with what you don’t want and flip it. Try identities in low-risk situations and notice what feels truthful.
Are affirmations enough? No. Affirmations interrupt old narratives, but action and evidence create identity change.
Ready to Apply This at a Higher Level?
Understanding Be Do Have is powerful.
Living it consistently is what changes everything.
If this way of thinking resonates, it’s often a sign you’re ready for a different environment, one that supports growth, leadership, and aligned action rather than hustle and burnout.
That’s exactly what we focus on inside Prosperity Of Life.
We work with people who want to:
Upgrade identity, not just habits
Build income in a way that reflects who they are becoming
Be surrounded by conversations that stretch them, not limit them
Create results from alignment, not pressure
If you’re curious to explore whether our business and leadership platform is the right next step for you, I invite you to make an inquiry.
There’s no obligation.
Just a conversation to see if there’s alignment.
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Rachel Krider
VP Worldwide Marketing
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